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Ten Ways To Start Finding Happiness From Within

By Nita Pettibone, CHC


True happiness doesn’t come from other people or from things, it comes from within.  We get so busy in our lives taking care of everyone else that we forget to take care of ourselves.  Soon our moods and health spiral out of control and finding happiness in even the simplest of things become a challenge.


Here are ten ways to start finding your own happiness:


  1. Watch your words: When people speak to us in a negative manner we have a choice of allowing those words to bother us or not, however when we speak to ourselves negatively, we give up that choice. Instead of being your own worst critic, start finding things you like about yourself and then do that often.
  2. Create a positive relationship with food: What we eat can make us feel amazing or horrible. Are you eating because you need nourishment, or are you eating because something else is lacking?  Start thinking about what you are putting on your plate and why, then know that it is within your ability to change it.
  3. Remember each day that you are wonderful: Let each day start with the knowledge that you are in control of how you feel and that nothing or no one can change that. Don’t let the moods of others become yours.
  4. Avoid complaining: Nothing changes while you are complaining about it. When there is something you don’t like, start looking for solutions. If it is something you can’t change than start looking for ways that you can better manage it.
  5. Show gratitude: It seems so simple, but remember to thank people for the positive things they have done for you, and let each day end with being thankful for what you have, who you are, and what you are capable of.  A mind shift of gratitude is one of the quickest ways to find happiness.
  6. Sleep: As parents, our sleep can be the first thing to go and the hardest thing to get back. Try to add even just a little bit of sleep to each night and watch your moods begin to shift in a positive way.
  7. Ask for help: This one is so hard for people especially those who need everything done a certain way (and you know who you are.) Yes, the kids may leave spots when wiping something down, a friend may put the dishes in the wrong spot, the spouse may mix whites with colors, and don’t get me started on the toilet paper roll turned the wrong way, but ASK for help anyway! The biggest gift you can give to yourself is realizing that you don’t have to do it all alone.
  8. Breathe: Stop during the day and consciously breathe. Big deep breaths, slow down for a moment, take a break, and just breath in the positive thoughts then exhale the negativity.  Or in mom terms: “Take a time out.”
  9. Exercise: You don’t have to run a marathon or do 500 push-ups to exercise. Sometimes that just means dancing while you’re putting the laundry away, bouncing on a rebounder for five minutes or taking the dog for a walk.  But try to do something within your capabilities every day. Moving not only helps the waist line but it also helps enable a happy mood.
  10. Give: When all else fails and you’re just having one of those days, give your smile to someone else. Volunteer, donate, send kind words, call a friend in need or just give away a smile. Nothing can cheer us up better than cheering up someone else.


Find more thoughts, tips and challenges in this book  “Fall in Happy with YOU, 101 thoughts to create happiness from Within”

Nita Pettibone is the owner of Falling in Happy, LLC and can be found on or

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